When you play the Long Distance Relationship (LDR) game right, the attraction will be so strong that you and your partner won’t have a choice in the matter.
My beautiful wife Marianne was the free-spirited type, a fellow Bostonite by birth but an aspiring short story film producer by calling.
Part of me wanted Marianne to change course in college, to do something that would keep her local, with me.
But ultimately we both agreed that her passion called on her move out to the West Coast, where the very best film schools and opportunities in her field lied.
I demanded in a sharp tone, needing to know the answer and yet needing her cooperation to find out who the intruder was.
Something about not being close to your partner and sensing a potential rival just gets under your skin like nothing I’ve ever felt.
You fear for your partner’s safety, and are somehow equally angry at their lack of understanding of what’s going on in your own mind.
Once I escaped my confusion, I realized the seductive cosmetic ad on the TV behind me triggered her outburst.
Sometimes Marianne got angry at me for days because she misinterpreted my texts and thought that I wasn’t loving her.
But Marianne loved to chat about daily things and sometimes I felt like she was pushing me to communicate.
Whenever I delayed to reply her messages for whatever reason, even for good reasons such as work or my battery was dead, she felt neglected and thought I was with “someone”.
But all the negative emotions such as feeling jealous, needy and doubt made me feel like something was not quite right.
Both of us knew something had to be done to solve these issues that kept repeating themselves, week after week. Before it was too late and things broke down for GOOD…
Thanks to the ‘net, when you’re having a life crisis, you can now ease some of your concerns with a late-night research binge.
As Marianne and I were in a relationship crisis, here were some interesting statistics and facts I found about distance relationships during my binge:
Pitfall #1: Most distance relationships are woefully disconnected. Partners spend on average 2.7 days between calls and send just 3 letters or email messages to each other per month. Per MONTH!
Imagine if you had to raise a baby that way – the baby would probably die from a lack of love and care. You and I are not so different.
Pitfall #2: The distance relationship challenge is becoming mainstream: Did you know that 75% of engaged couples have been in a distance relationship at some point? That’s three out of four Americans.
1 out of 3 distance relationships were caused by college relocations, with most of the rest created by military or other work obligations.
Pitfall #3: Just how much hardship does the average couple go through? Well the average couple plans on enduring 14 months away from each other. And 70% of them see unfortunate results unfold due to unplanned changes.
When I talked to many couples on forums, some of them even said that most of their arguments are due to miscommunication via text…
From my research, I also created a special report which I called the "7 Costly Mistakes Most People Make In A Long Distance Relationship".
In this report, I shared the most common mistakes that LDR couples make and how to avoid making the same mistakes.
Since you have given me some of your precious time, I would like to give you a free copy of my report.
#1: Mutual confidence significantly increases a distance relationships chance of success: Not just confidence in yourself, but also your partner, and the fact that he or she is worthy of your trust.
Few couples are able to maintain this superhuman level of trust and confidence in one another, as distance relationships understandably make this a rather difficult endeavor.
As I’ll explain in just a minute, sexuality involves so much more than physical contact. And when you do it right, your partner can’t help but lock you into his or her daily thoughts, constantly thinking of you and only you.
We compiled our research on the very best distance relationship strategies into a series of action plans.
We then distributed these at local “separated couples meetings” both of us found in our respective areas, in an effort to show other struggling couples a better path to success.
Through a slow, gradual process of testing and tweaking done by us and our peer groups, it was quite clear that that strong, intimate relationships could be strengthened with iron resolve and commitment using nothing but some simple mindset adjustments and daily rituals.
This is what we call our final iteration of the distance relationship guide that Marianne and I, along with our support group peers, worked so painstakingly on for nearly 3 years.
All aspects of long-distance relationships are covered in 7 chapters and multiple “major discussion” sections are also found towards the back of the book.
How to keep your love fresh in spite of the long distance and make your partner feel uncontrollably obsessed with you
How to develop an unstoppable sense of confidence and strong faith about the bright future of your relationship
How to deal with miscommunication. Yes! we finally found a way to fix this silly problem that most LDR couples have.
How to use social media the right way to connect with your partner (Warning: do this wrong and your relationship could spiral out of control.)
How to stop feeling disconnected and start reigniting the passion in your relationship. (Disconnected feeling is like a wound that needs healing.
Tips and what to do when you both meet each other again (Meeting is exciting, but it… Read more…